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Thomas Aeffner
Schwalmtal, Duisburg-Baerl
I also enjoy massaging and accompanying seniors and people with disabilities.
Philosophy
Just as a musician brings a song to life, or an actor a play, for me Tantra massage is an applied form of art. In my "previous life," I was a painter. When that was no longer possible, I dedicated myself to Tantra massage with the same passion. Whereas before I deeply moved people through my paintings, now this happens quite directly: through the touch of the body, I not only evoke joy and pleasure, but also touch the soul, if the person is open to it.
Tantra and tantric massage have fascinated me for many years – initially only theoretically. My spiritual quest first led me to other practices: autogenic training, tarot, yoga, and Reiki. It was only when profound changes occurred in my life that I decided to truly commit to this path. And I have not regretted lovingly accepting life as it presents itself, acknowledging the interconnectedness of all that is, and feeling lovingly connected to the people I encounter. For me, tantric massage is the tangible expression of lived love.
During a massage, I am in a meditative state: surrendered yet completely awake, fully present with the person I am with and yet fully present with myself.
You are welcome here, as a man or woman (or however you identify), as a person with a disability… just as you are. During the massage, I see the person's personality reflected in their body. I accept you as you are; I touch your soul through your skin – with love.
Placing yourself as a woman in the hands of a mindful man – one who is solely there for you in his touch, who wants nothing from you, to whom you can therefore surrender yourself completely, who places himself at your service – can bring you a previously unknown sense of well-being. Even the consequences of negative experiences, indeed even of abuse, can be alleviated and resolved in this way, as your self-healing powers are activated, allowing you to become whole and healed once more.
With me, you can also learn more about your ability to experience female ejaculation.
A massage from man to man is a unique experience: powerful, energetic. Even if your orientation is heterosexual, this experience of encountering masculine energies can be an unexpected enrichment.
If you live in circumstances that prevent you from experiencing loving touch, I look forward to showing you again how good it feels to experience tenderness.
It is your birthright to be happy – I would be happy to accompany you on your journey there.
Touch makes you happy!
As a massage therapist, I have specialized in the healing of the yoni.
Specific forms of Yoni massage are particularly suitable for releasing blockages in the genital area and stimulating the self-healing powers of the Yoni and the entire pelvic region. Through my previous training, I support people of all genders in becoming aware of their physical blockages, especially in the pelvic area, and in releasing them through specific sequences of touch. This form of bodywork (Dearmouring) brings about heightened sensitivity and increased pleasure, often leading to a feeling of greater vitality, joy, and balance.
In addition, to support your relaxation, I offer meditative flogging, bondage massages, Reiki treatments and hypnosis.
Feedback:
"Dear Thomas,
It's been several weeks now since you massaged me, but the memory still resonates in every cell. It was your masculine presence that was able to make my femininity blossom. I thought I knew Tantra massages. Far from it. What I was able to experience was a true heart-to-heart connection, into which I was able to surrender myself with complete trust, carried by you, without having to maintain any control. What I was able to experience went very deep. What every woman longs for, to be recognized in her innermost being and to truly feel like "the Goddess" in that moment, you achieved. At one point, my pelvis felt as vast as the universe. I was completely there at the same time, yet in other spheres. Much is written and talked about Tantra, and much of it is empty words that are not felt and have no meaning. With you, it's different. You sense that for you, Tantra not only has its place within the massage, but permeates your life and leads you to ever deeper insights. THAT is touching. The more a man is a MAN, in the best way possible, the more a woman can be a WOMAN. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this wonderful experience and look forward to the next time, which there will definitely be."
Feedback:
"I can only recommend everyone to book a tantric massage with him. His hands have that certain something that enchants you. It brings your body to a state of high tension.
I thought it was wonderful that he came to my apartment, as I have a walking disability. That's important to know for older people who have disabilities like me.
I would also like to point out that more people, both women and men, should have the courage to experience massage.
All I can say is: Anyone who has experienced it once will never forget being touched so lovingly.
Thank you for this wonderful time of closeness."
Feedback:
"For your special attention and very sensitive support in my special situation after my breast cancer, which has left me physically disfigured for a year.
You touched me deeply like no one else had before, and only through your presence did I feel truly accepted wholeheartedly by you as a woman and held so lovingly by you, even after the loss of my left breast. A moment whose patience, through your patience, brought about a profound release from my pain.
After this special kind of appreciation from you, I could now really feel free to enjoy your massage to the fullest and completely relaxed!!
I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this wonderful and very valuable experience with you!
I was allowed to be completely myself, to feel whole deep inside, to fly again.
To this day I still feel that deep hug and your loving touch.
I will continue to enjoy this liberation and will flow more and more with my whole heart!
THANK YOU THOMAS from the bottom of my heart
Have you in my heart
All love"
Feedback:
"Since I have enjoyed various massages, including erotic ones by men, but never a tantric massage, I was very curious about what to expect.
You explained it to me in detail and gave me the courage to surrender myself into your hands. Your massages made my tension and headaches disappear before you moved on to the lingam massage.
I was so relaxed and enjoyed this special massage, but I sensed early on that I wouldn't be able to achieve a normal orgasm from this deep relaxation.
I was all the more amazed and thrilled by what I was then able to experience – I'd call it a dry "head orgasm" that lasted a long time, even after you had finished touching me. My emotions took over, and the tears flowed. You gave me the courage to let them flow and held and supported me emotionally. I thank you especially for that. It showed your professionalism."
Dates & Facts
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Experience
seit 2014 Tantramasseur TMV
seit 2015 Tantramasseur und Ausbilder bei "Anlea"
seit 2018 Sexualbegleiter ISBB
seit 2018 Tantramasseur, Sexualbegleiter und Ausbilder bei "Tantrawelten"
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Languages
English, German, Dutch -
Qualifications
Tantric Massage Practitioner TMV®
Background & Training
10/2014 – now
Tantramasseur TMV
11/2025
Tantric Sexuality Teacher bei Certified Excellence
09/2025
Sexualtherapie bei Naturalistico
11/2024 – 02/2025
Mind-Shifting bei Stevie Kent
12/2021
Der Yager-Code bei N. Preetz und E.Yager, Preetz-Hypnose
11/2021
The Pleasure Principle: How to Become a Sexual Healer bei Barbara Carrellas, Urban Tantra
08/2020
Hypnotische Orgasmuskontrolle bei Undine de Rivière, BDSM-Hypnose-Seminar
08/2020
meditativ Flogging bei Mag Ela,
08/2020
erotische Hypnose II, bei Undine de Rivière, BDSM-Hypnose-Seminar
07/2020
Erotische Hypnose I, bei Undine de Rivière, BDSM-Hypnose-Seminar
05/2019
Shibari, Massage und Atem bei Robert Kriz und Marion May
04/2019
ISBB: Arbeit gegen sexualisierte Übergriffe bei Lothar Sandfort
03/2019
energetic full body orgasm bei Andrew Barnes
10/2018
Flug des Phönix - dynamische Massage bei Nhanga Grunow, Didi Liebold, Petra Hällfritzsch
07/2018
Yoniheilmassage bei Elvira Malinovskaa, Jembatan
06/2018
Fesselmassage bei Kaya Köhn und Julia Dietz
04/2018
Vertiefung und Initiation bei Tegtmeier und Göbel, TantraConnection
03/2018
Tantric Domination bei Apollo Adama, TheNewTantra
07/2017 – 02/2018
Sexualbegleitung für Menschen mit Handicap bei ISBB-Trebel
01/2018
Becken-, Anal- und Prostatamassage bei Tegtmeier und Göbel, TantraConnection
11/2017
Kaschmirische Massage bei Dick Nijssen, Helios
10/2017
Umgang mit Sexualität von Menschen mit geistigen Behinderungen bei F Bottinga, proFamilia
09/2017
Tantra meets Handicap bei Deva Bhusha
05/2017
Shibari-Workshop bei Asmondeno
04/2017
Sexual Deconditioning / Advanced Sex bei Frank Bottema, TheNewTantra
03/2017
Childhood deconditioning bei Puja Lepp, TheNewTantra
02/2017
Tantra & Shibari bei tantra-atma/naturalbliss
02/2017
De-Armouring Training 2 bei Susanne Roursgaard
11/2016
"Living in Flow" Transmission Training bei Alex Vartman, TheNewTantra
10/2016
De-Armouring Training bei De'an Matuka, LoveCore
07/2016
G-Punkt, A-Punkt, weibliche Ejakulation bei Nhanga Grunow
04/2016
Sexual Deconditioning / Advanced Sex bei Bea Dominic, TheNewTantra
07/2015
Rotes Tantra / Tantrazirkel bei Manuel Hirning, Yoga-Vidya
06/2015
Hypnose bei Alfred Himmelweiß
05/2015
Tantramassage bei Anlea
03/2015
SET Sexuelle Tiefenentspannung bei Nhanga Grunow
02/2015
Ganzheitliche Fußmassage bei Elfriede Vogt, Paracelsus Heilpraktikerschule
01/2015
Becken-, Anal- und Prostatamassage bei Tegtmeier und Göbel, TantraConnection
10/2014
Tantric Massage Practitioner TMV®
09/2014
Yoni- & Lingammassage bei Tegtmeier und Göbel, TantraConnection
07/2014
Rotes Tantra bei Manuel Hirning, Sukha Tantra Yoga
12/2013
Reiki Meister
10/2013
Lomi Lomi Nui Massage bei Jörg Weppner, Paracelsus Heilpraktikerschule
01/1982
freiberuflicher Künstler und Dozent
10/1974 – 01/1979
Studium Germanistik und Kunst (Nebenfächer: Pädagogik und Psychologie) in Essen
Directions
Praxis für Entspannung
41366 Schwalmtal
+49 (0)2436 3825076
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Tantra-Welten
47199 Duisburg-Baerl
02841-9815073
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