Sandra Kaiser

Sexuality as self-knowledge

Sexuality is so special and unique in our life because it is a mixture of simultaneous physical and mental experience and feeling. We can experience an intense connection through them - with ourselves as well as with a partner.

The way we experience each other sensually and erotically reflects our whole personality. Showing yourself with these inner parts and revealing deep feelings and thoughts is an important part of true intimacy. This courage is rewarded with an authentic, shared sexuality that is not only physically intimate and can make you deeply happy.

Sexuality - even with itself alone in puberty - is perceived as unexpectedly confusing. If a second person, relationships and partnerships are added later, this can increase enormously.

In addition to the frequent question "Is this normal?", It is important to know the connections between physical and psychological experience.

The path that we cover to bring our sexuality, our lust, our body, our being a woman and being a man, our (self) love and shadow issues to awareness needs courage and openness.

Longing for change

I perceive a deep longing in many women. Far too many women are dissatisfied with their sexuality or are satisfied with a restricted, reduced form of pleasure in their life.

In their dissatisfaction, there is often a certain perplexity, because they believe their feelings cannot be changed. That's not true - sexuality can be learned. However, change requires knowledge about our body, our psyche, our nervous system, our breathing and our sensuality and arousal.

Often the head and body are perceived as unconnected parts of the self, but they are a wonderful team that makes sexual experience holistic and whole-body.

The psyche and the body regulate each other. We can calm or arouse our body through the psyche, just as we can initiate new feelings in our body through our psyche. At the body level we experience relaxation and excitement and with our head we process the impressions and gain knowledge from them.

The sweetness of life

The sweetness of life resides in our body - we have to allow it. For this we need self-confidence and the certainty that what we feel is always right. It is important to follow your gut instinct and the more often we trust it, the clearer the path to our own intuition becomes.

If we manage to put the scissors aside in our heads and let our thoughts free, we can get great stimuli for our lust from fantasies. We can do this by refraining from constant evaluations and instead concentrating on feeling.

Our feelings give us a deep connection to ourselves. Our curiosity and our desires invite us to play and research. A deep, fundamental “yes” to us welcomes everything that wants to emerge. At the same time, it invites our borders. Boundaries are important so that we can feel safe and relax.

Sexuality has the potential to mirror us and make us grow. In it we can experience and redeem ourselves. We can experience deep devotion and clear guidance, get into trance-like states and experience our head and body as a unit.

What does it take for you to experience your sexuality as a wonderful place?